The unimaginable failure that accompanied our first “night of love” with Andrei, I remember even now, six years after the wedding. We met on the street and unexpectedly easily exchanged phone numbers. We met the next day and had a wonderful time. He was funny and serious at the same time. Very beautiful. And there was no ring on her finger. Eye color – dark gray, with a deep blue tint. I fell into them. On each date, we became closer, and it was harder to part. The feeling that this is the same person did not leave me.
The first time is the hardest
When Andrei invited me to the party, I put on black lace lingerie, because I had no doubt that there would be sex. We danced, drank shots, laughed a lot. And when at last he said, “Let’s catch a taxi!”, I trembled with impatience. It was the best way home in my life, the driver looked askance at us in the mirror and shook his head accusingly. At the entrance, we kissed on almost every step, in the apartment the intensity of passion was already going wild. Therefore, when my hand reached his trousers and did not find a hard protruding member in them, I literally froze in surprise. Andrei somehow immediately wilted, but did not show it. That night we tried to have sex for about three hours. Whatever we tried, even stockings with garters were powerless.
Size doesn’t matter
Later, I stood in the shower for a long time, examining my body, which for some reason did not inspire the most desirable man in my life. I remembered a brief but meaningful affair with the tattoo artist Max. When I first saw his penis in working order, I almost cried out of self-pity, but in vain. This guy masterfully managed his modest manhood and brought me to orgasm every time. I couldn’t understand how he did it. Fearless Sex author Dr. Joy Davidson says: “When a small penis enters the vagina, it rests on the G-spot,
while a large member will most often pass by. Men with a small penis are more sensual, more prone to experiments due to the need to compensate for the missing centimeters. And such a guy is excited faster, and his erection is much longer – everything was like that!
A woman can have multiple orgasms even before sexual intercourse begins. For a good lover, penis size means nothing, because he knows the mechanisms of female arousal, he can always give her different orgasms by stimulating the right points with his fingers. And all the nerve endings in the vagina are located in the first 2.5 cm from the entrance. Therefore, the length of the penis is not important. And in order for the woman to feel the penis seemed thicker, you need to use the following poses:
- Doggy style. The girl should lie with her whole chest on the bed and bring her legs together tightly.
- Missionary position. However, you do not need to spread your legs, just lie still. A man should enter a member almost vertically. This position is called the vertical penetration technique.
- The woman lies on her back with her legs raised up and taken to her head.
It’s a pity that Max and I never had time to try anal sex, because guys with a small dick have a big talent for it! And all because we had almost no common topics for conversation. Unlike Andrey, who managed to become such a family in just a couple of weeks. “Nothing,” I thought, “this stress at work is taking its toll.” I tried not to focus on it. Pity in such a situation is the only enemy. Pretending that everything is fine is also impossible. I decided to listen to my best adviser – intuition. She was sympathetically silent, but the sediment remained.
And just to prove my feminine attractiveness, I went on a date with a guy who wanted me for a long time, but I still didn’t give in. Something about Mark always repulsed me a little, although he dressed beautifully and smelled very nice. But all our dates were reduced to his endless stories about himself. Once, when I tried to insert a single word into his monologue, he gave me a contemptuous look and said: “Were you not taught as a child that men should not be interrupted?” In general, this Ken with the eyes of the Snow Queen, of course, ceremonially gave me Moёt to drink and dragged me to his round bed. And it began. He turned out to be a technical and tireless sex robot, a brutal marathon runner.
I felt like a defenseless anvil being beaten with a jackhammer. Mark twirled and twirled me all night long. Silently, furiously, from time to time
snoring intently. He didn’t give a damn about how I felt: he was damn sure of himself, as if he was passing some hellish standard “Erase her to powder or die.” I heroically withstood this mechanical dance of the alpha male, who somewhere in the depths was terribly afraid of screwing up, and finally realized: I don’t need this, I don’t want to. Not!
If a man cared about his own pleasure first of all, it is foolish to hope that something will change in the future. In this case, such a “hero-lover” can be immediately dismissed.
Waiting for a miracle
Instead of calming down, I felt the aching emptiness that nights like this always end with. Sex without love, and even with such automatic pepper, finally threw me into the abyss of sadness and longing for Andrei. I decided to work on this issue and got on the Internet to find out about the problem that I encountered for the first time.
This story hit me hard. So that I don’t arouse the man I want more than anything in the world?! No, it can’t be! It turned out that it could. Scientists at the University of California, Los Angeles conducted a survey, which found that 6.5% of men aged 20 to 30 suffer from erectile dysfunction. And the chief urologist of the Ministry of Health and Social Development of the Russian Federation, Professor D. Yu. Pushkar, together with a group of Russian scientists, recently conducted a study, as a result of which it turned out that 90% of the stronger sex, to one degree or another, have problems with potency. The reasons are different – from smoking and arterial hypertension to chronic fatigue. In general, I was not alone with my problem. An unsuccessful first not the first time was a serious test for many! And the so-called fear of misfiring is the number one fear for men. Imagine, there is even a special term for this – the syndrome of anxious expectation of sexual failure. It happens that one failure in bed is enough for a guy to have doubts about his own abilities. The second failure shapes and reinforces the nascent reflex. And now he can no longer think about anything, except for his own erection, weakening from this continuous attention, as if anticipating an exam that will not be passed. And you can solve this problem with the help of a permanent partner – a sensitive and patient woman. Like me! And I also learned that every second couple has difficulty during the first sex with a new partner. The fact is that both want to look perfect, show themselves in the best light, please at any cost. All this leads to a lot of stress. The head does not turn off in any way, the mechanisms stop. The only way to solve this problem is to wait until the first excitement subsides. So, I decided not to give up.
A man is worried about any problems with erection, you need to support him, pretend that nothing terrible has happened. If you do not panic and return to the foreplay as if nothing had happened, the tension subsides and the erection is restored in 15-20 minutes. give a second
the chance in this case is worth it, because he is not to blame for the problem, and its causes may depend on several factors:
- Prolonged abstinence. The body of a 30-year-old man does not always have time to respond to psychophysical stress, so after a long break, he needs time to mentally and physically get used to a woman.
- A man likes a woman so much, she excites him so much that an erection does not occur. Excessive excitement passes through one or two times.
Andrew didn’t call. I felt I needed to pause for now, so I bought some wine and invited my best friend over to discuss my problem with her. Masha remembered how she met a classmate who had a huge penis. During sex, neither foreplay, nor lubricants, nor changing positions helped. As soon as Igor’s huge device hit Masha, she immediately received a painful shock. Patience was enough for two months, and then she decided that she was not born a masochist and nothing could be done about it. In addition, there was no trace of love left. She saw in him a huge, nowhere fit device, he in her – a frigid hysteria.
Sex is primarily pleasure for both partners. Pain should never be tolerated. If there is at least some discomfort, you need to tell your partner about it right away.
- Women experience pain with a penis length of more than 17 cm. In this situation, a man needs to control himself, restrain himself, regulate the depth of penetration and ask how deep he can enter without causing pain.
- With a large size, a quality foreplay is important, which should last from 30 to 40 minutes, because if a woman is not sufficiently excited, a large dick will give her even more discomfort.
- You can use a position when a woman lies on her back, her legs rest against her partner’s chest, she can regulate the depth of penetration with her hips and push him away if he accelerates. In this case, she has a head start of 5 cm, and this is already a lot.
26% of men blame the lack of an erection on a woman, according to a survey by the Ministry of Health and Social Development.
Can’t be punished. pardon
And the next day, Andrei called me himself, and we met. He asked me to give him another chance and handed me an envelope containing tickets to Sri Lanka. Of course, I agreed. And the most amazing thing is that on the first night we succeeded. Without stress and special efforts, just by itself. Andrei turned out to be an excellent lover – sensitive, open, attentive. We returned home together, never to part again. Six months later we got married, and two months later we had a son. I still don’t know what it was. Fatigue? Excitement? Fear of not being up to par with a woman? Situations are different and frankly difficult: what to do with a person if, from the point of view of physiology, you absolutely do not fit each other, it is not clear.
How many unsuccessful first attempts can a man be forgiven for? I dont know. Be guided by an inner voice, a feeling in your heart. Intuition that does not fail, which did not fail, for example, me. A man is a gentle and quivering creature, he worries no less than you. Or rushes into the abyss of self-confidence, and then run and save whoever can, unless you are a master in gymnastics. It happens that his failures just need to be endured several times. No extra pathos. And certainly with humor.