But first, some important theory. Although we do not plan to talk about the toughest BDSM positions, it will not be out of place to remind you about three main principles: safety, voluntariness, reasonableness.
- Safety means that any actions within the framework of the practice of BDSM should not harm the health of either you or your partner. And you must interact in such a way as to minimize the risk of physical and mental injury. Even if you don’t plan on making gestures by arranging BDSM in different positions, this risk is always present in practice to one degree or another.
- Voluntary means that all interactions within the framework of BDSM practice must be performed with the full consent of all parties, not only physical, for example, specific BDSM positions, but also verbal. That is, if you plan to attach a partner with a strong word during the session, you should also ask about this in advance.
- Reasonableness means that all actions, including the choice of a pose for BDSM sex, must be performed in sound mind and solid memory – that is, without alcohol and other mind-clogging substances. It also means that if a partner in the heat of the moment asks for some action that may be dangerous for him, he should be refused.
So before starting, discuss all the nuances, including BDSM positions, and come up with a stop word after which you need to stop. It is believed that it should be such that it clearly stands out from the context and attracts attention. For example, “anteater”.
And now we are talking about the best poses for light BDSM.
1. Queen on her knee
This position is a relatively easy way to enter the complex world of BDSM.
Let’s start with a variation of the BDSM bondage position. Have him sit in a comfortable chair. Tie his hands behind his back, sit on one of his knees and start seducing. For example, run your chest along his cheek, pinch his earlobe, run your nails across his chest… Do everything to make him aroused and get closer to orgasm. Stop and repeat until it asks to continue.
It’s not really a BDSM slave pose, but something close to it in light interactions. If you like this game, you can try to tie it in some other way. But keep in mind, this is already a path to a full-fledged BDSM. Bondage positions in which you fix him, choose any, but it is very important that there is no risk of making breathing difficult. And here are a couple more points about security for games of this kind. First, do not use anything that stretches, such as stockings, for tying. Regular linen rope is what you need. Second, keep scissors in the room, just in case. Well, we have already talked about the principles of the BDR.
2. Get it all at once
Of course, we are all against slavery, but if submission is just a pose and part of a sexual game that all participants agreed to, then why not?
Start, so to speak, from afar. Ask him to give you a massage or something else, no less pleasant. Then take him by the hair or by the hand and direct him where you want. For example, let him do cunnilingus. Then you can return the courtesy (or not). Today you decide what to do! This option is especially good for those who were afraid to tell what they like in bed. Try to feel the power and put men in any BDSM positions you like.
For example, if you are dominant this time, then you might be interested in the BDSM cowgirl position. It differs from the classical “rider” in that the man’s hands are tied to the back of the bed – you “jump”, and he can only moan, examine your chest, and otherwise be completely helpless – that’s the point.
3. Complex approach
This position is a variant of the well-known doggy style, but with a BDSM twist.
If you like light pain during arousal, this pose is definitely for you! Stand at the edge of the bed, lean on your elbows. The partner stands behind and combines sharp movements of the pelvis with light slaps. You can even buy a special whip in a sex shop. This is perhaps the most obvious home BDSM – the poses will be familiar to you, and the toy will spice up the process.
You can make it even hotter and film the process on video – a frame with a whip, a frame with reddened skin, your BDSM poses … You don’t even have to watch the video – the very fact of its presence will excite the blood.
4. Sex doll
The degree of pleasure from this BDSM position depends on how ready you and your partner are to get used to the role and trust each other.
A game with sexual deprivation (distraction) and control, and at the same time a variation on the theme of the position of a BDSM slave. Lie on your side, blindfold, and let your partner do what he wants with you. Complete submission looks erotic and adds to the pleasant sensations. You can lie on your back or stomach and guess what exactly he is doing.
Continuing this game, the partner can put BDSM handcuffs on you. Poses can be changed, the main thing is the feeling of power and submission. But let not tighten the handcuffs too much, two fingers should fit between them and your skin. You want to restrain movement, not disrupt circulation – these are just light interactions. It is also possible to tie you with a rope in such a position – taking into account the foregoing. And if you can’t decide which specific BDSM positions to take, photos on the Internet on this subject will surely inspire you.
5. Foot massage
And for this BDSM position you will need… a fresh pedicure
This position is for those who unconditionally trust each other. Sit on the bed opposite your partner and give an intimate massage… with your toes! The real Kama Sutra – BDSM poses are also very original. He can move his foot around your clitoris, you can touch your penis and scrotum. You can press harder, but do not overdo it with pressure! This game will require a lot of lubricant and well-groomed legs – yes, scratching it with your nails is completely optional, although this is BDSM. Pose 69 has something in common with the above practice – you both get caresses at the same time.
And here’s how else you can combine caresses with your feet and sadomaso-practices. Let everything be the same, but instead of being barefoot, put on stockings. Even cooler are stilettos, but here you already need to be careful so as not to injure manhood in the heat. Start with a gentle, gentle impact, at the same time you will understand how comfortable you are yourself. However, in BDSM, uncomfortable positions are completely optional. Nothing limits you and your partner to invent your own positions and caresses that both of you will enjoy.