You are drunk

Do not self-medicate! In our articles, we collect the latest scientific data and the opinions of authoritative health experts. But remember: only a doctor can diagnose and prescribe treatment.

Many women believe that it is better to drink before the experiment, so that everything goes easier. Correctly? Not properly. While alcohol may actually help you relax, it dulls your physical sensations, and you may not immediately know when something is going wrong. Anal sex should never be painful: unusual – yes, but painful – never. Pain is always a signal that something is wrong.


But you need this signal to control the situation.

Do you have microtrauma?

You can feel them when you go to the toilet in a big way. If you experience burning or discomfort at this time, most likely you have microcracks in the anus, and, believe me, during penetration, the sensations will be much worse. See point one: no pain. If you feel that “there” is something wrong, it’s better not to risk it.

You should not engage in anal sex if you have irritable bowel syndrome or any other disease that causes discomfort.

Are you unsure about your partner?

While any sexual contact carries a risk of transmitting STDs, from gonorrhea to herpes to hepatitis B, anal sex carries an increased risk of contracting HIV. We are now talking about the risk specifically for the “receiving” partner, and it is 30 times higher than with vaginal sex. Don’t forget the condom!



During anal sex, you can also become infected with the human papillomavirus (HPV), hepatitis C and A, E. coli.

But when we talk about insecurity in a partner, we mean not only confidence in his “purity”, but also in the fact that he will stop as soon as you ask him about it.

You don’t have lube on hand

Don’t even think: no oil, no soap, no baby slime… And, of course, no saliva! It should be exclusively a lubricant for anal sex – it is slightly denser than for vaginal sex, it has less consumption and better gliding. Lubricant for anal sex should be in abundance. Honestly, there is a lot in this case – not a little.

You are squeamish

During anal sex, the penis is in the rectum, where there is no accumulation of feces, so you are not in danger of a serious incident. But there is one “but”: after you went to the toilet, it happens that traces remain on the walls of the intestine, which, in turn, may remain without a condom (which you, of course, use).


Anal sex is anal sex, which means that you will interact with the intestines, that is, there is always a risk of getting dirty. If you feel that you are completely unprepared for such surprises, it is better to abandon the idea itself.

Do not you like it

Easier than simple, yes. But you don’t have to have anal sex if you don’t feel like it. Even if he tries to persuade you, even if he promises that you will eventually like it. In order for you to like it, you must completely relax, and this cannot be achieved if you do not want to.