1. Don’t fake an orgasm
Movies show both partners groaning and squirming at one touch, but in reality, of course, this does not happen. You don’t need to show that you had an orgasm if you didn’t have one. In addition, it is almost impossible to experience it during the first sex. And if you begin to deceive your partner from the very beginning, then it is very difficult to stop doing it.
2. Feel free to ask
It doesn’t matter if it’s the first sex or the 101st, don’t think that you can guess all the desires of your partner. Ask him what kind of caresses he likes, if he needs music, what he would like in particular. In response, tell us about your preferences.
3. Sex doesn’t hurt
Many believe that the first sex in life should be painful. This is not true. Discomfort is possible, but not real pain. Lubricant helps in most cases, but if it’s difficult, it’s worth going to the doctor and checking if you have vaginismus. By the way, there can be no blood either!
4. Everyone has a different experience
No need to focus on other people’s feelings and stories or worry about what you did something wrong in the past. Now it doesn’t matter.
5. You can not confess virginity
But only when you don’t want to! Do you think that he will get scared or leave you immediately after the “victory”? It’s better not to start at all.
6. Remember to breathe
Sex is not a cause for excitement. But if you can’t stop shaking, breathe deeply and focus on some detail to distract yourself.
7. Foreplay is important
Especially when everything happens for the first time. It will help you both relax and enjoy each other before moving on to the main thing.
8. Discuss sex
No, this does not mean to criticize! If you immediately find out who likes what, then it will be much easier.