We are good at “effective sex”. It is fast, rich, full of sighs, moans, and, finally, always (or almost always) ends with an orgasm. Orgasm becomes the top of the mountain, where you definitely need to get, otherwise what’s the point of climbing? Often we forget that sex is not a mountain and we do it only for our own pleasure, and not for the sake of achieving some heights.

A recent study conducted at the University of Utrecht in the Netherlands on 500 pairs of volunteers showed that there is an average of 5.4 minutes between penetration and orgasm. Seriously. Five minutes to rejoice in intimacy, to feel each other, to establish contact …. In general, the very fact that some couples agreed to use a stopwatch during lovemaking is annoying.

Maybe that’s why more and more couples are interested in the phenomenon of “karezza”?

The term “karezza” (karezza) is translated from Italian as “care”. It includes touching, stroking, caressing, looking, everything. Except for the orgasm. The idea of ​​karezza is that if people have sex in ordinary life “like rabbits”, then within the framework of karezza they do it “like turtles”.

The method is actually not new. For the first time information about him was published in 1931. Today, even when couples practice karezza, they may call it something else: tantra, slow sex…

The idea is that during an orgasm, a huge amount of the hormone of joy dopamine is released into the blood, and during long, thorough sex, much more oxytocin, the hormone of attachment, appears.

Carezza involves a special awareness in sex, a feeling of being in the moment, like meditation.

So, briefly about the principles of karezza.

Consciousness in sex implies that you will be very careful in choosing a partner and will not practice short sex for one night. Including because karezza assumes that both partners will be involved in it, both want to change their sex life for the better.

If you have studied the issue of karets and decided to try to approach sex more consciously, be sure to say out loud what goals you want to achieve and why you need it, what does not suit you in your current intimate life.

Maybe you basically do not have enough time that you have sex, and you need more.

It may sound boring, but without it, it will be more difficult for you. Tell your partner that you miss foreplay and how much time you want him to spend on love play before sex. When exactly are you ready to start actually having sex. Where and how you want to be touched. It’s good if your partner does the same in return.

Carezza can last for hours. But that doesn’t mean it has to last that long. If you are accustomed to completing a task in three minutes, four minutes will already be an achievement for you, in this extra minute you will already have time to do or say a little more to each other.

It is amazing how little we can know about the body of our lover, even if we have lived together for several years. Do something new, surprise, learn about his erogenous zone, which you have not touched before. Maybe it’s nipples? Or is he crazy if you pinch his cock between your thighs? It’s time to break the habit and learn something new.

While we talk about delaying orgasm, it doesn’t mean avoiding it. Especially if it is difficult for you to achieve it normally.

The idea of ​​karetz is not to make yourself worse, to train your will or endurance – this is not mountaineering or sports tourism, and you do not overtake anyone. Just try to treat your sexual games more consciously, realizing the fullness of the moment.