The fact is that from the outside we see only a small part of the clitoris, and it has the so-called “legs”, nerve endings that penetrate the vagina. And it is quite possible that some of those women who experience orgasm rarely have a greater than average distance between the visible part of the clitoris and the entrance to the vagina, so the clitoris must be stimulated separately. With hands or a toy, with or without a partner, but you need to.
It is recommended to start studying your anatomy alone. Sometimes the clitoris is so sensitive that it does not tolerate direct stimulation, but responds perfectly to indirect circular movements. In other cases, strong pressure is needed. It’s just that you don’t know it!
Sex toys also help to better understand your desires. No need to worry that they will ruin your sex life: the body enjoys different types of stimulation.
After a series of experiments, it is worth talking about all this with a partner. Pick together an option that both of you enjoy, including, for example, oral sex. Experiments are an important part of intimate life!