1. Don’t want to do what “everyone else does”
You don’t have to swallow cum, be able to give deep throats, or anything he’s seen in porn or done with an ex. If everyone but you does it, let him look for someone else.
2. Want to use a vibrator
For self-satisfaction or during sex. If he considers this gadget his rival, he probably does not know how to bring you to orgasm.
Non-ideal sites should not surprise him, he certainly has them too! A person in front of whom it is worth undressing will never laugh at acne on the back. And if you can not afford to undress in the light – believe me, the problem is not in you.
4. Take a lubricant
It is still considered indecent in society to discuss such issues, but you have every right to additional lubrication. Stroking your chest for two minutes is not arousal.
5. Can’t have vaginal sex
Endometriosis and vaginismus make vaginal penetration painful for most women. There are many other options to have a good time in bed.
6. You have a low libido
Sexual desire is different for everyone. Maybe you don’t need this sex at all! Or, for example, you have depression, your libido is suppressed by medications, or something else is affecting you. And if he begins to worry a lot about this, there is no need to do anything against his will.
7. Tell him what to do
If you know that fingering or cunnilingus is a waste of time, it will be good for him to know about it too.
8. You have a lot of lube
Sometimes partners talk about it in such a tone as if it’s something bad!
9. You get nervous in bed
It doesn’t matter if it’s the first time or the hundredth, it’s okay! There are often strange and uncomfortable moments in sex, it does not always look like a romantic intercourse from a movie.
10. Watch porn (or don’t)
Both of these are the norm. Loving porn doesn’t make you slutty, and dislike doesn’t make you frigid.
11. Want sex on critical days
Put on a towel and go. Of course, he needs to be warned, but in fact, few refuse this.